When I put my grandaughter (11 mos) down for a nap, she normally fusses a bit and then goes to sleep. I cover her up totally with her blankie because, if she sees me or someone else leave the room, she'll start crying, although this does not last long and she normally falls asleep quickly.
Today, my son-in-law was over when I put her down for a nap. Unfortunately, she picked this time to cry when she saw her mother leaving the room. My son-in-law got all upset saying that he shouldn't have to hear his baby crying. He carries her everywhere and does not like to hear her fuss much less cry. According to him, she has to be tended to every minute and to allow her free time to play is to neglect her. Needless to say, he left angry and I'm not sure how to manage this when he returns.
Is he being unrealistic to think that his daughter should never cry? Or am I being a bad grandparent by letting my grandaughter fuss or cry a bit before taking a nap. I only put her down for a nap when she is obviously fussy and nothing is holding her interest. Also, if she cries for an extended period of time (5 minutes or so), I get her out of bed and try again to amuse her. Sometimes it's just false fussing and she really wasn't ready for bed. We are in such a situation just now and she's playing happily...but her dad is off somewhere instead of enjoying her company. Oh, by the way, it was he who suggested that it was nap time for her in the first place.
Thanks for the input...
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