I have a 24 year old daughter who has been a mother herself for 30 months. My granddaughter seem no worse for wear however my daughter so far has taken no responsibility financially or otherwise except to spend her days with her ( me and my ex wife have been supporting the baby's needs ) as much as I talk to her about being more responsibe she never initiates anything. Also the baby's father is emotionlly and phyically abusive to my daughter who accepts this behavior. What's a father to do?
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My son is about to turn 10 years old. About 7 months ago his grandfather passed away, due to cancer, and it appears to have impacted him more than we expected. He was never really that close with his grandfather up until the last year when his grandfather began spending a bit more time with him (once grandpa found out he had cancer). Since then, my son cries at night, not every night but quite frequently, as he remembers his grandpa. My husband talks and consoles him every time he cries. He/son states that he saddened for my husband now that he no longer has a father. He also expresses concern about growing old (himself) and fear that my husband grow old. He has always expressed concern about growing old even before the passing of his grandfather. My son is somewhat shy...not completely...but certainly not an extrovert. Note- My husband and his dad where not exactly very very close..they loved each other quite a bit they were just not the type to express it much. How long does this continue? Will it taper off? Do we just continue consoling him? Any recommendations?
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I have been babysitting my grandson since he was three months old. Now his mother wants to put him in a child care centre two mornings a week so he can socialize with other kids. I feel, at just 35 months, it would be traumatic to drop him off in an unfamiliar place with strangers. Am I correct?
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How do we talk to our 6 ½ year old son about the illness and potential death of a family member? His grandfather (my father) has quite suddenly become very ill and has been hospitalized. He has pneumonia and they subsequently have found some unexplained bleeding and that he has leukemia (quite a shock as he was walking around just a few days ago). All this to say that he is up against quite a few challenges, any one of which could be fatal. Taken all together, his prognosis is not very good. We want to talk to our son about his grandfather and aren’t sure what to say to him or how to present the situation to him. He knows that Granddad is very sick and in the hospital. He also knows that I am spending a lot of time there. Any advice would be appreciated.
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When I put my grandaughter (11 mos) down for a nap, she normally fusses a bit and then goes to sleep. I cover her up totally with her blankie because, if she sees me or someone else leave the room, she'll start crying, although this does not last long and she normally falls asleep quickly.
Today, my son-in-law was over when I put her down for a nap. Unfortunately, she picked this time to cry when she saw her mother leaving the room. My son-in-law got all upset saying that he shouldn't have to hear his baby crying. He carries her everywhere and does not like to hear her fuss much less cry. According to him, she has to be tended to every minute and to allow her free time to play is to neglect her. Needless to say, he left angry and I'm not sure how to manage this when he returns.
Is he being unrealistic to think that his daughter should never cry? Or am I being a bad grandparent by letting my grandaughter fuss or cry a bit before taking a nap. I only put her down for a nap when she is obviously fussy and nothing is holding her interest. Also, if she cries for an extended period of time (5 minutes or so), I get her out of bed and try again to amuse her. Sometimes it's just false fussing and she really wasn't ready for bed. We are in such a situation just now and she's playing happily...but her dad is off somewhere instead of enjoying her company. Oh, by the way, it was he who suggested that it was nap time for her in the first place.
Thanks for the input...
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