My 13 year-old son consistently neglects his homework and studying. He admits that he is aware of what is required but simply doesn't want to do the work. Over the course of several years, we have tried micro-managing, punishment and rewards but nothing seems to help. He is a very bright child (we have had a full battery of intelligence tests) and generally cooperative and happy. His class participation is great and his teachers say he is a pleasure to have in class. However, he will be lucky to hold a "C" average. I don't know how to help him break his pattern of underachievement.
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I am having a difficult time with my very bright 10 year old daughter. She is barely getting a "c" average at school, although she is smart and really knows the work. She is unmotivated, turns things in late to get zero credit, or forgets to write her name on her work, thus getting another zero. She says she wants to go to college, but, I don't know how to get her to focus and get organized no matter how hard I try.
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My 2nd grade daughter is very bright. Her teacher tells me how creative and interested in learning and writing she is. But she doesn't want to do her homework by herself. From the feedback I get from her teacher, she should be able to, but she wants me to help her step by step. She gets very angry and upset if I refuse. I know she's little, but I think she can do the work without me and I don't want her to get dependent on me. I think that will lead to poor study skills. I don't want to just "tune-out" and ignore her if I shouldn't.
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How do I help my nine year old daughter with her self esteem issues, when her biological father is of no help? She is struggling a little at school. I feel it is because of laziness and her teacher shares my feelings, her father rarely sees her and said infront of her and a room full of people that she should have never gotten out of the 2nd grade nevermind be moving on to the 5th grade next year. He seems to believe that she doesn't understand the basic concepts, and has commented that she doesn't even know the alphabet, because sometimes she mixes up the letters. Well sometimes I do too, that doesn't mean that either one of us is stupid. My husband and I signed her up for spring soccer hoping to help her self esteem, social skills, and get some excersize. She wants to play also. I want my child to succeed and she wants to please everybody, she can be a bit of a busybody which is another issue we are working on, in our family. Her dad seems to want to be the pal instead of the parent by undermining everything I say or do for her. I tell him whats going on with her and he justs laughs as if it is a joke. It's not a joke, she is a child. I believe she has friends at school it is not my job to be her friend, it is my job to be her mom. How do my husband and I help her with all the conflict with her biological dad? Trying to discuss anything with him as I have mentioned is like talking to a wall. Please help me, I love my daughter and want what is best fro her. She has a right to have a relationship with her dad even if I don't feel he is actually behaving like a parent.
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My 14 year old is texting on the phone/and talking on the phone 30++hours a month in addition to the IM on the internet { She does play high school soccer and field hockey ---No drinking or drugs at all}
She does mostly B's in school with little work put in. We try in instill that you need good grades to get into a good college to get a good job. We told her long ago any C's on report card and phone is gone during the school week. she is flipping out Is this too harsh? she also is very distant and does not talk to us parent's much unless she needs or wants something.. IDEAS???
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