When should a boy child be discouraged from climbing in bed with his single mother if he wakes up in the middle of the night? (My son is almost 7; his dad and I separated when he was 3 and he doesn't spend much time with him.) Sometimes he wakes with leg pains, but often it's just for comfort. Thanks for answering.
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My husband and I are considering a separation.I do not want to separate or divorce, but things do need to change in some ways in our marriage. We have a 16 year old daughter who is very close to Dad. She wants us to divorce, I think to give her a new life. She wants to live with her Dad. She never wants to talk to me, says she hates me, saya its going to be so much better without me. I feel like the bigest obstacle to a recovery for my husband and myself is our own daughter.
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How do I help my nine year old daughter with her self esteem issues, when her biological father is of no help? She is struggling a little at school. I feel it is because of laziness and her teacher shares my feelings, her father rarely sees her and said infront of her and a room full of people that she should have never gotten out of the 2nd grade nevermind be moving on to the 5th grade next year. He seems to believe that she doesn't understand the basic concepts, and has commented that she doesn't even know the alphabet, because sometimes she mixes up the letters. Well sometimes I do too, that doesn't mean that either one of us is stupid. My husband and I signed her up for spring soccer hoping to help her self esteem, social skills, and get some excersize. She wants to play also. I want my child to succeed and she wants to please everybody, she can be a bit of a busybody which is another issue we are working on, in our family. Her dad seems to want to be the pal instead of the parent by undermining everything I say or do for her. I tell him whats going on with her and he justs laughs as if it is a joke. It's not a joke, she is a child. I believe she has friends at school it is not my job to be her friend, it is my job to be her mom. How do my husband and I help her with all the conflict with her biological dad? Trying to discuss anything with him as I have mentioned is like talking to a wall. Please help me, I love my daughter and want what is best fro her. She has a right to have a relationship with her dad even if I don't feel he is actually behaving like a parent.
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My Daughter, age 12 wants to attend a party at her girlfriend's house which is a high school graduation party for the girl's brother. She says her friend is inviting other of her 12-year old girlfriends. I do not know the parents and do not want her to go. To me this is totally inappropriate. My husband and daughter don't understand why. Please advise.
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I have a 17 year old son who is incredibly bright, very talented, but seems unmotivated. Everything he learns seems to be effortless. His School Marks are consistently below his capabilities because he frequently fails to turn in his assignments, or does a sub-par job. He is uninterested in learning to drive, and try though I might, I cannot help him to understand the value associated with getting a job.
His mother and I have been divorced since 2000, and I am now remarried. His mother's stance when I talk with her about him is to become defensive and to accuse me of impugning her parenting skills. She does not like to push him and essentially turns every discussion we have on this topic in to a chance to extoll his virtues.... which are many, but that's not the point. His mother is afraid that pushing him will ruin his self-esteem, while I believe setting goals and achieving them is precisely how we build self esteem. My son is about to go out in the world and go to college, which we cannot afford. Thus far, he has done little to nothing to earn money for. Lately, every tactic I try seems to meet with the same result - passive-agressive resistance. To complicate things, he has few friends and also seems unmotivated to socialize with them. I can get him to do most anything if I take him by the hand and do it with him (study, set up times to hang out with friends, go look for jobs), but he digs his heels in when I ask him to do it on his own. I am at my wits end - he is such a great guy and I fear he is cutting off his nose to spite his face.
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