My daughter will be 16 in 4 weeks. She was caught shoplifting with a friend (who ditched my daughter and was not caught) and was 'cited'. Her father and I divorced when she was 2 and she lives with me and her step-dad 85% of the time. Because my daughter was going on a week long vacation out of state with her Dad and step mom she convinced me to allow her to delay telling her Dad about the shoplifting incident. She has been back for 4 days and today went into melt down mode when I asked her about when she was planning to tell him. She informed me that she would rather die and would kill herself if I told her Dad. She said he would not understand and that she was not going to do it. I do not believe she means it when she says she's going to kill herself, she's said this type of thing before and she is currently seeing a therapist on a monthly basis. She also decided to take out her anger on me and said I was mean to make her do this and proceeded to verbally assault me in every way you can imagine (she called me names, said that I deserved having my wallet stolen from my purse earlier that day (karma), she mocked me, laughed at me, screamed at me (profanity/expletives), refused to clean up after herself, feed dogs, normal chores etc). What should I do? Tell her Dad anyways? Let it go? Set a deadline for her to do it and if she does not then tell her Dad? In shock and do not know what to do.
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I have 2 daughters 11 months apart age 14 and 15.
They fight constantly about clothes/make up everything! It gets so OLD and tiresome Also trying to get them to help with ANY type of chores is tough I offer to pay them $7/hr and they don't do any work??? Any advice on turing them around?
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What are typical responsibilities or contributions from a parent for a college age child? My daughter, 19, is in college in another town. I want to know how much financial assistance is a good balance for a child of this age and stage.
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I have a very hard time with my twin daughters (age 6, 1st grade) picking up all the toys they've played with. But, at a November Parent/Teacher conference, the teacher said she has no problem with my daughters at clean-up time. Help, please
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I am a 33 yr old single mom and I have a 14 yr old son. I am in the military so there have been times when I have been away from home. Sometimes I have brought my son with me to live others I have left him in the care of my mom. Recently my son has been very disrespectful, lazy and not listening to what I tell him. He failed 8th grade so he is going to summer school to pass. I tell him to cut the grass and take out the trash and he whines and asks why do I have to do it and it doesn't get done for another 2-3 days when I have to raise my voice and yell. He then does it but mumbles under his breath as he walks away which enrages me more. There are times my sister will come and do it in the course of the 2-3 days because she can't stand the sight of the yard in a mess. He cursed under his breath at his teacher and he has been on punishment. I took the computer and the tv out of his room and his video games. While I am at work he takes the computer hooks it up and tries to get online. When I come home and see this again I am mad and I start yelling. I ask him why he does this and he says because I want to talk to my friends. These "friends" are people he has never met and he deems them more important than listening to what I am telling him. He has lied and sneaked to get on a computer so he can try and contact these people. He is not allowed to leave the house without permission. When he gets in from summer school he will just leave back out without saying a word. He comes back at dark or sometimes I have to start calling around and tell him to come home. He claims he lost track of time yet he wears a watch, when I remind him that he was not to leave he tells me I wanted to go to my friends house. I have to tell him to wash his clothes, take baths and use a towel and if something of mine is missing and I am complaining he will say what are you complaining for you have money just buy a new one. When I call all over looking for him and ask to speak with him he gets on the phone and I tell him to get home he blurts out, you're going to hit me, I always get hit. This is embarassing because he is saying this in front of people who don't know me and because it is a lie. Do I yell? Yes and occasionally yes I will hit him a few times with my hand in his arms, but I do not always hit him. I get so angry that I know if I hit him he will be really hurt. So I tell him to get out of my face go take his shower and go to bed. I have contacted his friends parents and told them that unless they speak to me or my mother, my son is not to be allowed over. This week he pulled his disappearing act and when he tried to sneak in I did hit him in his face and he in turn told me he doesn't want to live with me he wants to live with his dad, who doesn't live anywhere, he is unstable. He said the only people he listens to is his dad and his dad's mother. He said he wasn't a baby and I should stop treating him like one, I told him he was not a baby, but far from an adult. He has no job and no degree and I am the one taking care of him. He then went back in he house and took the phone and called his friends down by where his dad stays sometimes and I assume proceeded to tell them what I had done. That is also an issue, I have raised him to not tell what goes on in our house and he is constantly telling everything. His father and I argue because he does not like the way I verbally discipline my son and says I treat him like a baby. My son's actions upset me and I feel so worn out. I don't like to hit him and it doesn't seem to work anyway and my yelling doesn't work so what else is there for me to do?
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