I’m the single parent of an out of control 17-year-old. How do I get back in control?
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My child is 2 1/2 years old. Her mother lives in another state and has spoardic contact with my daughter. My daughter has began to bite the other kids in her daycare and no matter what we do it keeps getting worse. Her pediatrician said that she needs to be spoken to and removed from the situiation. This is not working. How can I get my daughter out of this habit? My daughter lives with me, my father and brother at the moment. We all live in a small apt. We will be moving to florida within the next 3 weeks and she will have more room and a big back yard. I believe that the daycare is not equiped to deal with this type of situiation.My mother suggested a child psych but i am not positive that it is a good idea to put another person in her life and than talke them away. I am trying to make her life as stable as possible. We moved in here out of necessity and it is just crowded. We have only been here a few months. When her mother is around she is drunk so i think i may have to stop the visitrs all together. I am 31 years old. and currently work full time. My hours are either 6-3 or 9-6. My daughter is well behaved for the most part. She does not throw many temper tantroms any more.Any help would be greatly appreciated. My goal is to teach my daughter not to berade or deminish her.
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My daughter will be 17 in two months. She is convinced that she is a prisoner in our home that can't do anything that a normal teeager can do. In the last year I have gone from mom to step-mom to no longer accepted as a parental figure at all. Even though I am her step-mom, until now, the term "step" has never been used in our home. We have four children altogether, his, mine, and ours. We have had his since they were 2 and 4 so there has been no purposeful difference in raising them other than outside influences - absent parents etc. Someone has informed my daughter that she can become legally emancipated at 17 without any legal requirements. She is always angry and trying to get negative attention all the while blaming everyone around her for the negativity. We will not allow her to go to anyone's homes if there are no parents home. She is required to carry a "C" average in order to go out or drive. She only has four classes and yet refuses to even do any homework. We have tried to have a very open relationship with her. We found out that she was sexually active and that she had gotten exteemly drunk with some of her friends. So we explained to her that her bad choices will affect our decision making as to what we will allow her to do. She sits in our home screaming at everyone cursing telling us how she hates us and will be gone as soon as she is 17. She doesn't want to be here or at her mother's. She wants to live with her friend and her parents.
We can no longer comunicate with her, when we try to reason with her she starts screaming and cursing again no matter which one of her younger siblings are around. I feel that there is a level of independance that a 17 year old should have but she never gives us no opportunity to offer that to her. Between sneaking her boyfriend in our home, whom she also screams at and belittles, drinking alcohol - which has also been offered to her 14 year old sister to avoid her telling, we are not even aware of how much she may still drink if at all, stealing our vehicles, thinking she was pregnant, the list goes on and on. We have tried to explain to her that this behavior is why we are not comfortable allowing her any leeway. All on deaf ears. I don't know if there is somewhere we can send her, or if we should just let her go. My husband is at a point where is feels completely betrayed and has stated if she leaves in this manner she is not welcome back, I cannot be that way to one of my children even though I feel the same. But as long as she has the option to keep coming back how will she ever learn. The more we offer our hand the more advantage she takes. I do not know what to do, where to go, and if she does leave how legally liable are we still if she make even worse choices.
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My 13-year-old son has come home from friend's houses with alcohol on his breath a few times. My husband says that a drink here and there is nothing to worry about. My husband is not an alcoholic; he’s never been drunk although he has a glass or two of wine to help him fall asleep every evening. We've talked to our son about drugs and alcohol, and we live in a good school district, but his friends seem to have lots of access to adult beverages. I'm so worried about my son, I haven't been sleeping well.
Please advise!
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My 15 year od son left the house New Years at 1am, after my husband and I went to bed. He attended a party at a neighbor friends house. The friends parents provided alcohol to him and other teens. The father of the friend called me the next morning to say that my son damaged his wifes car while at his house drunk. I was a bit taken back since I did not even know my son was there. My son then lied continuiously stating he was not there. He finally confessed after much pressure. I want to address the situation properly. My son is punished how should I punish this parent. I am not a amateur, I have 6 children ranging from 26 years to 8 years.
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