He opens his wallet and pulls out a picture of an adorable infant. “My grandson,” he said beaming with pride. “How wonderful for you,” I reply. He then says that his daughter plans to stay home because she wants to raise him. The hair on the back of my neck stands up, but I say nothing. He has no idea that he just insulted all women who return to work after having children. He doesn’t realize that working mothers raise their children and work. I can’t expect him to understand that any more than he can understand what it is like to be pregnant.
But I expect women to be more supportive of each other. We have come far and are able to make choices. There are women that have to work, women who don’t have to work, and women who choose to work. Hillary Rosen was criticized for the comment that Ann Romney never worked a day in her life was taken out of context. She wasn’t critical of Ann Romney for making the choice to stay-at-home, she simply wanted to point out that due to the economy many women simply don’t have that as a choice. The critics didn’t listen.
No one should be judging what is right or wrong; it’s only your choice. Let’s reserve judgment for jury duty.
In the meanwhile, focus on your own physical, spiritual and mental health and on being really good parents. Yes, there I said it! Let’s not forget that fathers are the other half of the equation we call parents which is not dependent on whether or not moms work.
Viva la choice!
Have a good week!
Tina Nocera, Founder