“So how am I doing?” That was a frequent question posed by Ed Koch, the popular three-term New York City Mayor. What a great question for parents! But how do you know how you’re doing? Is our goal to raise a straight ‘A’ student or a good person?
The job of parenting is 24/7, 365 for the rest of your life. It includes a laundry list of skills you are required to learn that look something like this.
But these are tasks, not the goal.
Then I came across a wonderful quote by Michelangelo in his response to someone who asked how he took a slab of marble and carved such a beautiful angel.
“I saw the angel in the marble and carved until I set him free.”
And I realized that was the answer!
As parents, we need to see our children in the future, which is basically reverse engineering them into the adults we want to meet.
When I asked parents what values they want their children to possess, there was a response of over 400 qualities.
Raising a good person is easier than you think, and most effective when you:
- Model the behavior you want to see
- Encourage good behavior
- Offer alternative ways to act when children exhibit less than desirable behaviors
Starting next Sunday, June 7th I will be sending out a weekly evening email focusing on one value such as empathy, gratitude and family. That week’s highlighted value will be reinforced on the Parental Wisdom® Facebook page giving parents helpful ideas and tips, such as capitalizing on car time, breakfast banter and dinner discussions.
Being a parent can be unpredictable, but you can count on this email every Sunday night 9pm EST. Consider it your “big kid bedtime story,” and a great way to kick off your week.
If you would like to receive the weekly email, simply signup here.
Don’t forget to share your stories too; after all, we are in this together!
Thanks and have a great week!
Tina Nocera, Mom & Founder