Archive for July, 2011

You’re Not the Boss of Me

Sunday, July 10th, 2011

Schools are gearing up for anti-bullying programs this summer.  Coincidentally a new movie, Horrible Bosses opened this weekend.  

Here’s where it ties together – if you find yourself at the family dinner table complaining about your own boss, who might be a bully, know that your children will get the connection. 

  • The boss who continually makes jokes about your height, weight, baldness, etc. is a bully.
  • The boss who calls you in to discuss a project, but reads email instead of giving you full attention is a bully.
  • The boss who says no one talks up during meetings, but never gives anyone else a chance to talk is a bully.
  • The boss who says, “How are you doing?” but never waits for an answer is a bully.
  • The boss who complains about the status quo, but doesn’t listen to solutions offered by employees because they might mean more work, is a bully.
  • The boss who takes the credit but never the blame is a bully.

Your children are always watching.  Life isn’t perfect, but you have to demonstrate what you will do to make it better, and not simply do the job because you belong to the IHAM (I have a mortgage) club.

At least when a kid is stuffed in a locker, he/she can get out.  Show your kids that you will do whatever you can, including leave, to make things better.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.  – Eleanor Roosevelt

Any experiences you care to share?  Leave a comment.

Have a great week!

Tina Nocera, Founder

Parental Wisdom®

Two very powerful words – Do Over

Sunday, July 3rd, 2011



The good news about the summer is that families get together at reunions, barbeques and other happy events.  The bad news is those gatherings can be ripe with tension.

Like most of the life lessons I learned as a kid, one that sticks in my mind is the simple phrase, do over

Our children listen to our words, but even more closely observe our actions.  Families have disagreements and conflicts and may say hurtful things that can’t be taken back.   These conflicts are sometimes unavoidable.

When conflicts happen, call a do-over, just like you did when you were a kid because your kids are watching.

Quarrels would not last long if the fault were only on one side. – Duke François de La Rochefoucauld

Tina Nocera, Founder

Parental Wisdom®