Archive for September, 2010

Do we really need another bake sale?

Wednesday, September 29th, 2010

“May you live in interesting times.” Chinese Blessing

With shrinking education budgets and cuts in sports, arts and afterschool programs; we need to get creative with fundraising.  Well, here’s a unique product that is relevant for parents and kids!

Consider a fundraiser that provides security, safety and peace of mind in a……



The unique digital device to ensure safe travel and proper medical treatment for teen athletes’

Sport Teams, Schools and Sport Associations



for a complete tour, visit us at

Be sure to use Coupon Code PW2010 for FREE SHIPPING!





Unique storage device for your important travel & medical information.  This state-of-the-art credit card shaped flash drive may be used in every computer, net book or iPad’s USB port.  With two versions providing either 2GB or 4GB of memory, this is the digital device to keep what you need accessible and not reliant on the Internet when you are on the go!

Price of 1 to 5,000 is $14.50 for 2GB; $22.50 for 4GB which your organization can sell for the suggested retail price of $19.95 for 2GB & $29.95 for 4GB.

You can also include your school or team’s logo right on the Travel Stix® as well as encourage local businesses to donate funds to support your event and pay for the customized Travel Stix®.  Your logo is free when using coupon code PW2010, provided your order is a minimum of 100 Travel Stix®.  You can allow contributing local businesses to include coupons and web site links that we can pre-embed on your customized version.  This is another way that the Teen Sport Travel Stix® enable you to maximize your fundraising efforts.

TRAVEL STIX® was created by an attorney who is also a mother of two active teens.

Visit and be sure to use the coupon code PW2010 for free shipping.

If you have any questions, you can also contact me.

Tina Nocera, Founder

Parental Wisdom®

Are You Ready for the Real World?

Tuesday, September 21st, 2010

Children are natural mimics; they act like their parents in spite of every effort to teach them good manners.

-Author Unknown

Rutgers University announced a two-year initiative to engage the New Brunswick campus in a series of activities and discussions that aim to cultivate an environment of courtesy and compassion through thoughtful communication and interaction.

“The world is growing smaller and each of us lives elbow to elbow with a wide range of people whose standards for civil behavior may be different from our own,” she said. “Old and young, from various cultures and religions and economic backgrounds, we’re thrown together at Rutgers. We have much to learn from one another, and ‘civility’ is a great conversation starter for deeper, mutual understanding.”

Better late than never…so glad that Parental Wisdom® advisors are working on a book focusing on the qualities you would like to see in your child.  The working title; 25 Qualities, 25 Years: Raising a Person You Would Love to Meet.

Below is a glimpse of an article on Raising a Well-Mannered Person by Barbara Gilmour, a contributor to this book.  Parental Wisdom members can see the complete article (after login), by selecting Free Stuff, Reports.

We will keep you posted on the progress of this free e-book for Parental Wisdom® members.   Encourage your friends and family to sign up!

Raising a “Cool Kind Kid” ®

(Written shortly after September 11, 2001 by Barbara Gilmour)

It all starts in the home

When a young child first says “please”

We follow him to preschool

Where he learns not to tease

Along the way with others’ help

He soon learns how to care

To be kind and honest

And play fair, and share

When he steps outside his door

He then begins to see

That many different people

Live in his community

Asking what he can do to help

Gladly doing his chore

He puts the needs of others first

And cares about the poor

He learns respect for others

Himself and property, too

He appreciates what’s done for him

And always says “thank you”

He’s known to be the friendly one

A really kind, cool kid

He stands up to the bully

“We don’t like what you did”

He’s learned to live The Golden Rule

At home, camp, sports, and school

His kind heart clear to others

They see he’s “kind” and “cool”

This poem was originally written with a chorus:

I’m a citizen of the USA

And proud to say I care

I’ll fly our flag so high

They’ll see it everywhere

I’ll respect our rights and freedom

Until the day I die

And be happy when I see our flag

Fly in a clear, safe sky


Tina Nocera, Founder

Parental Wisdom®

How to help someone who doesn’t think they need any

Sunday, September 12th, 2010

What if someone stuck on a train track ignored you as you tried to pull them up to safety?

People feel that way when they try to give advice to the parent of a child heading down the wrong track. They see their words ignored, and know that no action will be taken.

In the blog post ‘Are you building or ruining the relationship?’ I suggested that other parents really don’t want to hear your advice unless they ask for it.  That is true since the advice is usually related to personal opinion about how to raise children.

In those cases, it is a parenting style you don’t like.  You may feel the parents are not raising a (fill in the blank), happy, responsible, independent, caring, etc. child.  But again, that is your opinion.

Then there are the cases where there is real cause for concern.  Nothing has happened – yet, but when you try and talk to the parent into get help for the child, they do nothing as this Parental Wisdom® member describes…

I am the single mom of an eight-year-old girl. She recently had a friend over; that girl is nine. My dad was watching the girls while I was at work.

When I came home, my daughter was in the pool and the other girl was inside on the computer. I reminded my daughter that I didn’t want to happen when friends are over. I went in to see the girl and she jumped up and away from the computer. I suggested both girls take showers before dinner and checked the history on the computer. The girl was looking at porn videos! I asked my daughter if she did this too and she said yes and started crying. Then I asked the other girl why she did this and how she knew where to look. She said she saw this on TV at her dad’s house (her parents are divorced).

I called the mom who in turn called the father who replied that he didn’t have time to talk about this. This little girl was also caught stealing from purses at a dance recital. I have repeatedly suggested to the mom that this little girl gets professional help, but I don’t think she will do anything about it. The reason I have her around my daughter is that I hope she will see good influences, but now I am concerned about having my daughter around this bad influence.

My question to Parental Wisdom is I have great concern about this little girl. At what point does someone report to child welfare? I can only think that if she has such troubled behavior at age nine, what will happen when she is a pre-teen?

See our expert advisor’s responses

The highest wisdom is kindness.  – Yiddish proverb

Have a good week!

Tina Nocera, Founder

Parental Wisdom®