How kids backyard theme parties matter years later

March 15th, 2017

Well before videos went viral, our family was famous for birthday theme parties.

You may wonder how we got everyone to make and wear costumes from this costume Melbourne store, memorize scripts and perform. It was easy – – no one ate until after the show! The oddest thing is that they all had a part, which meant we actually had no audience.

In celebration of the opening of Beauty and The Beast, here are photos of our production for Noelle’s 4th birthday on Saturday, August 21st 1993 .

Unfortunately, we weren’t able to find pictures of the entire cast.  One of my favorites, was Priscilla, an amazing person always impeccably dressed, smoking a long Virginia Slim cigarette, and wearing her very high heels. She was our very own Auntie Mame.

For our production, she wore a large refrigerator box because after all, she was the wardrobe, Madame Garderobe.  Although she complained that her heels were digging into the grass, she still flawlessly delivered her line, “The master’s not so bad, once you get to know him.”

What our kids learned is family and friends play a role in our lives, just as they played a role in our backyard productions.  We needed to fill all kinds of parts, which is why our differences help enrich our lives.

Our parties mattered not only for the memories they created, but appreciation of the people that mattered.

Enjoy the show!

Tina Nocera, Founder

Parental Wisdom®

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These little wolves are all in their late 20’s now. Andrew, Ryan, Michael and Vincent.

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My brother Michael as Cogsworth, Gerard as the horse, Bobby Clinton as the cart and of course my husband Mike, wearing a rented beast costume on a 95 degree August day. I’m the only one without a role. After all, I directed!

After an amazing birthday celebration, a little girl goes to sleep in her matching sheets.

After an amazing birthday celebration, a little girl goes to sleep in her matching sheets.

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Rosie as grown up Belle and the spin around costume she made for herself and Noelle as little Belle. Quite clever!

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Kenny and Anthony play Gaston and LeFou. Kenny gets credit for the dishwashing gloves to look like his character, but loses credit for not memorizing the script.

Do we now understand you can’t multitask?

February 28th, 2017

The drama of the 89th Annual Academy Awards was not due to the actors or motion pictures being honored. The drama occurred as a result of a blunder caused by the accounting firm of PriceWaterhouseCooper. Accounting firms are not normally known for drama.

Brian Cullinan, one of the two PriceWaterhouseCoopers partners who handled the Oscar envelopes on Sunday night, was tweeting photos from backstage minutes before he handed Warren Beatty the wrong Best Picture envelope.

Multitasking caused this error. Multitasking simply doesn’t work; it just isn’t possible to do two things at once.

The most incredible part was when the accountant jumps up and says, ‘He (presenter Warren Beatty) took the wrong envelope!’ and goes running onstage.”

He took the wrong envelope? Nope. You gave him the wrong envelope.

Now, imagine all the times children need their parents attention. Parents are so often on their phones, children feel less important than the Snapchat stories parents are creating, text messages they are sending, or Facebook posts. It has become such an epidemic that a nursery school post asking parents to pay attention to their kids went viral.

What the incident at the Academy Awards demonstrated was that sometimes the effect of our inability to multitask is immediate.

What we won’t know for some time is the impact multitasking has on our children. If Cat Stevens’s lyrics hold true as written in Cat’s in the Cradle, then I’m gonna’ be like you dad, you know I’m gonna’ be like you.

Finally, how do we define irony? While mentally composing this blog post, I got on the wrong train.

 

Tina Nocera, Founder

Parental Wisdom®

How to Spot a Reputable Online Casino: Red Flags to Watch Out For

January 29th, 2017

The popularity of online gambling has skyrocketed in recent years, with thousands of platforms offering a variety of games, bonuses, and betting options. However, not all online casinos are created equal, and some may pose risks to players through unfair practices or even outright scams. To ensure a safe and enjoyable gambling experience, it’s crucial to know how to spot a reputable online casino and avoid those with red flags. This guide will offer practical advice on identifying trustworthy platforms, understanding the importance of licenses and certifications, and recognizing warning signs.
1. Check for a Valid License and Regulation

The most important factor in determining whether an online casino is reputable is its licensing and regulation. Reputable casinos are licensed by recognized regulatory authorities, ensuring that they meet strict standards for fairness, security, and player protection. Here’s how to verify a casino’s licensing:

Look for Licensing Information: Reputable online casinos will display their licensing information prominently, usually at the bottom of the homepage. Common licensing bodies include:
Malta Gaming Authority (MGA)
UK Gambling Commission (UKGC)
Curacao eGaming
Gibraltar Gambling Commissioner
Kahnawake Gaming Commission

Verify the License: Licensing information should include the license number and issuing body. Visit the regulator’s website and use the license number to verify that the casino is indeed registered and in good standing. Avoid any casino that fails to provide this information or claims to operate without a license.

2. Look for Third-Party Certifications

In addition to a valid license, reputable online casinos often seek certifications from independent third-party organizations that audit and test their games for fairness. These certifications provide an extra layer of assurance for players. Key certifying bodies include:

eCOGRA (eCommerce Online Gaming Regulation and Assurance): This independent agency tests games for fairness, ensuring that they are not rigged and that the outcomes are random. Look for the eCOGRA seal of approval on the casino’s website.

iTech Labs: This organization conducts rigorous testing on gaming software to ensure fairness and reliability.

TST (Technical Systems Testing): Another independent testing firm that checks the randomness and integrity of casino games.

Casinos that proudly display certifications from these organizations demonstrate transparency and commitment to fair play.
3. Examine the Casino’s Security Features

Security should be a top priority for any online casino. A reputable platform will have robust security measures in place to protect players’ personal and financial information. Here’s how to assess a casino’s security features:

SSL Encryption: Ensure that the casino uses Secure Socket Layer (SSL) encryption to protect your data. This technology encrypts all information transmitted between your device and the casino’s servers, safeguarding sensitive data such as credit card numbers and login credentials. Look for a padlock symbol in the URL bar and ensure the website starts with “https” rather than “http.”

Responsible Gambling Tools: Reputable casinos take responsible gambling seriously and offer tools to help players manage their spending. Look for features like deposit limits, time limits, and self-exclusion options. These tools indicate that the casino prioritizes player safety and well-being.

4. Read Reviews and Player Feedback

One of the best ways to gauge the reliability of an online casino is by checking player reviews and feedback. While no casino will have a perfect reputation, a consistent pattern of complaints or negative reviews is a red flag. Here’s how to assess a casino’s reputation:

Independent Review Sites: Visit reputable review sites that specialize in online casinos. These sites often provide in-depth analyses, including pros and cons, payout times, and overall player satisfaction.

Player Forums: Online gambling forums can be a valuable resource for gathering honest opinions from real players. Pay attention to recurring complaints about issues like delayed payouts, unresponsive customer service, or unfair terms and conditions.

Social Media Presence: Check the casino’s social media pages for player comments and reviews. Casinos with active, responsive social media accounts tend to care about their customer base.

5. Assess the Game Selection and Software Providers

The quality of a casino’s game selection and the reputation of its software providers are also strong indicators of trustworthiness. Reputable casinos partner with well-known software developers, ensuring that their games are fair and reliable. Watch out for the following:

Top Software Providers: Look for games powered by industry-leading providers such as Microgaming, NetEnt, Playtech, Evolution Gaming, and Betsoft. These companies are renowned for producing high-quality, fair games, and their partnerships with casinos are a sign of reliability.

Game Variety: A reputable casino will offer a wide variety of games, including slots, table games, and live dealer options. If the game library is limited or includes unknown or poorly rated providers, this could be a sign of a subpar platform.

6. Examine the Terms and Conditions

Always read a casino’s terms and conditions (T&Cs) before signing up, especially when it comes to bonuses and withdrawals. Reputable casinos will provide clear, fair T&Cs, while untrustworthy sites may include hidden clauses designed to trap players. Watch for these red flags:

Unreasonable Wagering Requirements: Be cautious of casinos that impose excessively high wagering requirements on bonuses. For example, if you must wager your bonus 50 times before withdrawing any winnings, it could indicate unfair practices.

Restricted Withdrawal Limits: Some rogue casinos impose overly restrictive withdrawal limits or take an unreasonably long time to process withdrawals. Always check how long it takes to receive your winnings and whether there are any withdrawal caps.

Bonus Clauses: Ensure that the terms of any bonuses or promotions are transparent and fair. Avoid casinos that bury important information in fine print or require you to jump through too many hoops to claim your bonus.

7. Customer Support Availability

Customer support is a vital component of a reputable online casino. Trustworthy platforms will offer multiple channels for players to reach support, including live chat, email, and phone support. Consider the following:

24/7 Availability: Reputable casinos typically offer round-the-clock support to ensure that players can get assistance whenever they need it.

Responsive and Helpful Support: Test the customer service by asking a few questions before you sign up. A good casino will have knowledgeable, courteous staff who respond quickly and effectively.

8. Red Flags to Avoid

Finally, here are some clear red flags that signal an online casino might be a scam:

Lack of Licensing Information: If a casino doesn’t display its licensing credentials or fails to provide verifiable licensing information, avoid it.

Poor Website Design or Functionality: A low-quality website, filled with broken links or outdated graphics, may indicate that the casino is not serious about providing a quality service.

Unrealistic Bonus Offers: If a bonus seems too good to be true—such as offering an excessively large bonus with minimal or no wagering requirements—it’s likely a trap.

Negative Reputation: A consistent pattern of complaints from players about issues like delayed payouts or closed accounts is a strong indicator that a casino is untrustworthy.

Conclusion

Spotting a reputable online casino like joker123 apk requires due diligence, but following these steps can help protect you from scams and ensure you have a safe, enjoyable experience. By verifying licenses, checking for third-party certifications, reviewing player feedback, and examining security measures, you can identify trustworthy platforms and enjoy your time gambling online with peace of mind. Always prioritize your safety, and when in doubt, choose casinos that prioritize transparency, fairness, and player protection.

Big Solutions for Small Business Owners: Scaling Success with IT Services

December 29th, 2016

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Cybersecurity isn’t just a concern for large corporations; small businesses are often prime targets for cyber threats. A single data breach can lead to significant financial loss and damage to your reputation. Our IT services provide robust security solutions, including firewalls, data encryption, and regular system monitoring, ensuring your sensitive information stays protected. With strong cybersecurity in place, you can focus on growing your business without worrying about online threats.
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How sweet potatoes can keep our traditions yet change our view of the world

November 30th, 2016

We had such an amazing Thanksgiving, and loved sharing our traditions and stories with our new grandson.  The videos are below.

But here is an interesting connection related to something we love as a tradition, yet take for granted – sweet potatoes!

Four scientists have been awarded the 2016 World Food Prize for enriching sweet potatoes, which resulted in health benefits for millions of people. Please read this incredible article to see science and parent education can have transformational effects on millions of pre-school children in 118 nations.

And to us, it was simply a traditional side dish!

Enjoy the holiday season!

 

Tina Nocera, Founder

Parental Wisdom®

 

Food fixes everything, especially problems with society

October 30th, 2016

 

If you can’t feed a hundred people, then feed just one. Mother Teresa

If you’re like me, you want to disconnect from all election news.

Why do we hang our hopes on a leader for societal improvements?   Are we going to have these same conversations four years from now? Eight years from now?

What if the changes were easier than we thought, and we don’t need to wait for anyone?

I believe we can, and change simply begins with food.

Think about when you are happy?   It usually involves, family, friends and food, and connecting with each other around the table. It so happens there are grass movements (ha ha literally!) going on in the country to make sure everyone has access to healthy food.

  1. It begins with school gardens, community gardens, and with the help of the Roofing Advisors rooftop gardens are possible too.
  2. It’s as simple as making sure a child has a good breakfast before school.
  3. It’s as real as a billionaire believing in chickens.

These powerful movements can grow with a single seed.  What do you say we each plant one?

Have a great week!

Tina Nocera, Founder

Parental Wisdom®

Leaders with no followers are just taking a walk

September 25th, 2016

On the eve of the presidential debate, we are reminded of the crisis in leadership that presently exists in this country.

In the case of Wells Fargo, words serving as their mission statement and values were carefully constructed yet meaningless catch phrases, “Everything we do is built on trust. It doesn’t happen with one transaction, in one day on the job or in one quarter. It’s earned relationship by relationship.”

Statements no doubt prepared by expensive consultants and approved by Wells Fargo’s leadership team.

America’s Most Valuable Bank is a title Wells Fargo will no longer hold as the revelation that thousands of their employees were creating bogus checking and credit card accounts in order to meet their strict and unrealistic quotas the only way possible – by cheating.

This fraudulent practice has been going on for years. Over two million fake accounts were created and, as a result, over 5000 people were fired. Clearly this scandal reveals cultural and management problems at Wells Fargo. There are lessons to be learned from this crazy story, and one is: The Misuse of Metrics.

With over two million accounts opened, and no further activity on those accounts, the only metric that mattered was opening accounts.  Where was the compliance monitoring?

Best said by Senator Elizabeth Warren who challenged Wells Fargo’s CEO John Stumpf at Banking Committee Hearing.

Let’s also consider Mylan’s CEO Heather Bresch who testified in front of the House Oversight and Government Reform Committee.  The price of the device, used in emergencies to treat severe allergic reactions, has increased more than 500% since Mylan acquired it in 2007.

Let’s model real leadership for our children.  Hopefully their generation won’t play a game of words.  We can do better; we must do better.

Tina Nocera, Founder

Parental Wisdom®

 

Boys will be boys is hardly true

August 27th, 2016

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Sports do not build character.  They reveal it.

John Wooden

The phrase ‘boys will be boys’ has become synonymous for men getting away with unsuitable behavior such as the the ever-changing story of the alleged Rio robbery of four Olympic swimmers — Ryan Lochte, Gunnar Bentz, James Feigen, and Jack Conger.

The Rio Olympics spokesman Mario Andrada, showed the IOC isn’t too worried about the severity of Lochte and friends making up a robbery story that quickly stole the nation’s attention:

I do not regret having apologized. No apologies from [Lochte] or other athletes are needed. We have to understand that these kids came here to have fun. Let’s give these kids a break. Sometimes you make decisions that you later regret. They had fun, they made a mistake, life goes on.

Unbelievable!

That was the only negative story to come out a country that had a dangerous image prior to the Olympics.  Why give them a pass, and not even require an apology?

This is not a case of boys will be boys.

But there are cases where boys should be boys, such as five-year-old Omran Daqneesh who was photographed sitting dazed and bloodied in the back of an ambulance after surviving a regime airstrike in Aleppo highlighting the desperation of the Syrian civil war.

He should not be covered head to toe with dust and disoriented.  He should be playing with other kids his age, and I have to believe that is what the term boys will be boys was originally intended to convey.

Ryan Lochte can wordsmith the event all he wants, but the rest of us have to stop making excuses and exceptions for athletes. They should transition from boys to men just like everyone else.

Have a great week!

 

Tina Nocera, Founder

Parental Wisdom®

 

 

Unfortunately our present may be our future

July 18th, 2016

hope is not a strategy

Each week as the adults are talking about the current example of unimaginable violence, we worry about what to tell the kids.  Instead of protecting them, share your values.  Let them know how you expect them to treat others.

As an example, this past weekend a friend was at a fast food restaurant with her 13 year-old son.  She asked him to hold the table as she got the food.  After they left, he began crying in the car and told his mom three kids called him an F… Slow Stupid Retard. He is autistic.

The mom told her son the boys probably don’t have parents that teach them right from wrong.  They may not be loved as he is loved.  They simply may not know any better.  But we do.

Hope is not a strategy, but decisive planning is.  Don’t expect your children to learn kindness or empathy on their own.  As their greatest and most important teachers, that is our job.

We are being distracted by things such as Pokémon Go.  We have to be careful or the cult film Idiocracy will be our future.  The good news is that when children are born, they don’t know the hate or prejudice that are the root cause of our problems as indicated in the lyrics below from South Pacific.  Perhaps, we’ll get lucky and the parents who would teach hate and fear will be too busy playing Pokémon Go.

You’ve got to be taught

To hate and fear,

You’ve got to be taught

From year to year,

It’s got to be drummed

In your dear little ear

You’ve got to be carefully taught.

You’ve got to be taught to be afraid

Of people whose eyes are oddly made,

And people whose skin is a diff’rent shade,

You’ve got to be carefully taught.

You’ve got to be taught before it’s too late,

Before you are six or seven or eight,

To hate all the people your relatives hate,

You’ve got to be carefully taught

lyrics from South Pacific

Hoping for an uneventful week.

Tina Nocera, Founder

Parental Wisdom®

 

Welcome to our world little one!

July 10th, 2016

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“We did not inherit the earth from our ancestors, we borrow it from our children.” Ancient Indian Proverb

 

To our new grandson, we are so very happy that you arrived this week healthy and happy!

Your parents are good people, and you are loved by a very large (and somewhat crazy) extended family. Having so many people ‘in your corner’ is a very good thing!

We will encourage you to play, learn and grow to be someone good in this world.

Here is a little advice from Nonna:

  1. When you color, use all the crayons in the box. That will make your picture so much more interesting.
  1. When playing with your friends, they may have different ideas on what to play or how to play. Listen to their ideas, too. After all, the objective is to have fun. If you start with that in mind, everybody wins!
  1. Be grateful for everything you have, and remember it’s more about the people you are playing with, than about the game.
  2. There are certain games, like baseball, where you have to choose sides. Remember, you only have to choose sides when the game specifically calls for it. Other times, it’s nice to start in the middle rather than taking sides.
  3. Although the message in stories is that some people are good and others are bad, that is very rarely true.
  4. Don’t think you can look at a person and know the kind of person they are. Give people the benefit of the doubt. The ugly witch can be a very good person.
  5. Know that we will do everything we can to protect you. And the largest population in the world is good people. They outnumber everyone else.
  6. There aren’t always easy answers to a problem, but we can’t stop trying to fix them. There is always something we can do.
  7. You are going to make mistakes. Admit them, apologize, learn from your mistakes and move on.
  8. It is always a good time to be kind.

Every time a child is born, so is a grandparent.

I love you all the time!

Tina Nocera, Founder

Parental Wisdom®

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